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knowhim310
knowhim310
Friends Moving Away
Dec 18 2008, 3:17 PM EST | Post edited: Dec 18 2008, 3:17 PM EST
"When he moved away at 12, I was very much devastated. I didn't realize how much that that hurt me until I considered it later in life."

I can relate with this. I had a best friend in 5th grade that moved away and it really did impact me. I notice that many of the friends that I allowed to get super close to me always ended up moving away and I found that I kind of internalized that. So it's tough sometimes when a good friend leaves or gets into a relationship (because the time we would spend together is now either shared or redirected) - the end result is a feeling of aloneness, perhaps abandonment. And then there's the parents' divorce after 6th grade too. So yeah, the issues kinda linger and manifest in various forms....even in romantic relationships (or lack, thereof.) 2  out of 2 found this valuable. Do you?    
Ajax167
Ajax167
1. RE: Friends Moving Away
Dec 30 2008, 11:38 AM EST | Post edited: Dec 30 2008, 11:38 AM EST
It is also tough when you move away from friends. I lived in Anaheim, CA my entire childhood. But right around my 17th birthday, the summer before my senior year of high school, my family moved to the DC area for my dad's new job. It was a very tough adjustment for me, and while I can say today that I am very much a Washingtonian, I have this sense that my maturity from boy to man was hindered a bit because I didn't have the continuity of relationships that being with my friends would have provided. Instead, I had to find my own way to independence without their information and input.

Can I feel abandoned even though I'm the one that moved away? 1  out of 1 found this valuable. Do you?    
inlayterms
inlayterms
2. RE: Friends Moving Away
Jan 15 2009, 7:33 PM EST | Post edited: Jan 15 2009, 7:33 PM EST
I think you can feel grief, no matter who moves. It's possible that the move changed something within you that shaped who you are, for better and/or worse. Do you find this valuable?